Today (June 2), Jason Gray releases 2 new songs titled “Good Man” and “When I Grow Up.” You can hear the heart behind the new music below. The audio for “Good Man” can also be heard below. The project is available now.
“It’s better to be a woman than to be a man,” I heard my son say. It broke my heart to hear him feel any sense of shame or embarrassment over such a fundamental part of who he is, but I understood why he might have felt that way.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, each comes with its own set of challenges–life is difficult no matter who you are. But the particular crisis men face in our culture is being caught in the crossfire of being judged as “weak/passive” on one end of the spectrum or “toxic/patriarchal” on the other. It can be hard to know what to be and how to move in the world when there are landmines in every direction.
While some criticisms may be warranted, and while sometimes we as men certainly fail to be all we can be, the one thing almost every man I know has in common is a deep desire to be good. It’s buried in a man’s chest like an ember waiting to be kindled. (Check out my friend Brant Hansen’s new book, The Men We Need for his take on a Christian vision of masculinity).
If there was ever a time when our culture needed good, strong, tender, humble and brave husbands, fathers, and men, I believe it’s now. My song “Good Man” is me throwing my hat in the ring to join the conversation. It’s also my genuine prayer for myself
I know being a woman isn’t easy, either, but I’ll leave that song to someone more qualified than me to write and sing 🙂
If “Good Man” is about growing up into maturity and responsibility, then “When I Grow Up” is a reminder that, according to Matthew 18:2-4, we can aim no higher than to mature into childlikeness (not to be confused with childishness!). Cultivating a sense of childlike wonder keeps us curious, humble, open and free from bitterness and the dark side of ambition. G.K. Chesterton said it best when he wrote in his book Orthodoxy:
“Because children have abounding vitality, because they are in spirit fierce and free, therefore they want things repeated and unchanged. They always say, “Do it again”; and the grown-up person does it again until he is nearly dead. For grown-up people are not strong enough to exult in monotony. But perhaps God is strong enough to exult in monotony. It is possible that God says every morning, “Do it again” to the sun; and every evening, “Do it again” to the moon. It may not be automatic necessity that makes all daisies alike; it may be that God makes every daisy separately, but has never got tired of making them. It may be that He has the eternal appetite of infancy; for we have sinned and grown old, and our Father is younger than we.” -Gray